CAN WE TAP TO HELP OUR LOVED ONES?
Even when they are 1000s of miles away?
The answer of course is Yes. If we can pray for them we can certainly tap as well,
often with Profound results.
RULE NUMBER ONE: (Don't interfere with another's gift of Free Will)
1. Remember to tap for YOUR own feelings FIRST.
The feelings that 'you' are feeling are coming from inside you so tap on them so that you can be a clear channel for sending loving intentions and energy to another.
Time after time, we find that once we tap on ourselves, others 'seem' to change.
So, of course, tapping on ourselves is going to change what we attract to ourselves and that includes the behaviour of others towards us.
Perhaps this is why it's often said that in order to change the world, we need to first change ourselves!!!!
When tapping or healing it doesn't seem to matter if someone is in the same room with you, next door or several countries away, the results can be profound. Time and space are Only in our own minds.
As I was working with a client one day, she began telling me about how her relative had been in an accident which resulted in being in a coma for six weeks. One day as she sat looking out over a beautiful lake wondering what to do about her relative, she suddenly began tapping and suddenly this amazing calm, peacefulness and tranqillity came over here. All thoughts of worry were gone. It was as if she had suddenly slipped into this deep meditative state, the Higher brain wave patterns.
Intuitively she just began INTENDING for this same calm, peace and tranquility be sent to her relative. Later, when she went to visit him in hospital, she found him not only awake and alert, but standing by the door. Now, we don't know if her tapping had suddenly, after six weeks helped him but I would venture to guess that her INTENTION to first FEEL this peace herself, then INTEND that for him, had a GREAT DEAL to do with his recovery.
HENCE: The SECRET to successful SURROGATE Tapping!
The BEST way to help someone.
THIS is why it is so very important to TAP ON YOURSELF first...to get yourself into that SPACE OF HEALING...... before doing anything to help another.
Get yourself in the space where healing happens, then what you send can be of benefit to them! (Worry...is expecting a negative outcome.) Find PEACE first!
YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE!!!
RULE NUMBER TWO:
2. Always be aware of your intentions. Don't force YOUR wants onto another. Remember that they have their own minds, their own wants, and their own solutions to their problems, and THEIR OWN LIFE PLANS or BLUEPRINTS. They just need some help clearing a space so that they can see THEIR solutions. Your solutions won't fit another and theirs won't fit yours.
Always intend Love and help in clearing a space and you can't go wrong.
Here's a story from Dr. Holger Ahlsdorff that reinforces tapping on ourselves first ;
He was upset with the way one son was acting, until he 'tapped' and 'saw' it differently.
He suddenly saw the importance of allowing his son to 'be' who he is.
Dr. Holger Ahlsdorff:
"Now to my story, and of course you may use my name, I am fully convinced of EFT.
I am a fan of EFT also, and of you.....of course.
My eldest son is very competitive.
Whenever we go out of the the car, he asks:
"Who is first at the housedoor?"
And of course he has to be first. His little brother is always second.
But it can be anything, he always wants to be number one.
And that made me feel angry, and I suppose that I also shouted at him because of that
(not often....)
Ronny was the lucky one to treat me for that. We started tapping on my feelings.
And then we were using the bear, who was my son then.
And while I was tapping suddenly the idea came up (plopped up), that my son wants to be a great soccer player (football), playing for example for Manchester United or a German team.
Suddenly I realized when a human being wants to play at Manchester United he must be that competitive as my son is. This was logical. And I suddenly understood my son.
And I accept my son as he is, beause he is special and I am proud of him.
He will be a fantastic footballplayer.
So, now it is me saying: "Who is first at the housedoor?" ..and off we go.....
Linda, it really changed so much, it is unbelievable. And it gives me such a good feeling."
How do we tap for others without interfering in their Free Will?
We might tap and say something like:
"Even though I feel bad about what "Joe" is going through I know that Joe has everything within him that he needs in order to find a way through what he is now experiencing. I feel badly about it and those feelings are in me. I choose to tap away what I feel so that I can send love and support to Joe which he can then use to tap into his own resources. I am so grateful to remember that we each have within us everything that we need."
OR:
Once we have tapped for our own feelings about someone we might have Magic Buttons BE that person and tap and talk to them and allow their thoughts and feelings to come through us. We can also BE the person ourselves and tap with whatever words come through us. Remember to tap a final round when finished, reminding yourself that you are now You again! And thank the Universe for its help in helping others.
KARI'S VERY CREATIVE STORY:
Recently Linda was teaching a group in Norway and came to a point in the workshop where she sent everyone off to team up with someone else and do some tapping on the Magical Bears. Linda encouraged everyone to use what she'd just taught them to ignite their own creativity.
One very creative attendee asked if she could do some surrogate tapping for someone and Linda told her that would be fantastic. Kari decided to phone her Mother and ask if she could tap for her, without giving her any clue as to what she would be tapping on. She also asked if her Mother would just sit quietly for a little while and just Notice what happened. Before they hung up, her Mother asked, "Are you going to tap for my toothache." Kari, (the daughter) didn't know she had a toothache but said she might if she had time.
Kari then went to work with her tapping partner, tapping for old war stories that her Mother had told her as she was growing up. She remembered one story about how they'd had a pot of stew hanging over the fire cooking when they suddenly had to take shelter as the bombs fell. When they came back to their home, it had been bombed. But for the pot of stew that was still hanging over the fire, there was nothing else except smoke.
Then Kari remembered her Mother having told her that she'd fallen and cracked her head really hard but her Mother told her to run and see if the neighbors were okay and just wrapped her head up with a scarf and sent her running in spite of the pain she was in.
Finally, Kari and her tapping partner tapped for Mother's toothache. Kari then phoned her Mother back to ask what she'd experienced.
Her mother said, "Well, it was the strangest thing because I was just lying here wondering what you were going to tap on and suddenly I could smell smoke. Then my head began really throbbing on one side and then my toothache just disappeared!!!
Her Mother then asked, "Whatever did you tap on?" Kari asked her, "Do you remember those old war stories that you used to tell me when I was a kid?" Her Mother said, "No, what stories?"
Kari reminded her, then said, "Those stories are what we tapped on."
Not only was Kari, her tapping partner and her Mother blown away by this but so was the rest of the class when she told us about it afterwards!!!
SURROGATE TAPPING MAKES A DIFFERENCE!